Relationship Toolbox

What’s Your Hurry, Anyway?

When does marriage become an endurance contest, rather than an enduring opportunity?  That's a question that seems to be becoming of greater and, unfortunately, more pervasive importance.  Is that a relevant question for you in your marriage/partnership?  If you don't...

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Is Nothing Sacred?

I had a delightful breakfast yesterday with someone who contacted me through seeing me on FaceCrack.  Both of us are middle-aged and have been around the block more than a few times.  Somewhere in the midst of our conversation, we started talking about divorce.  My...

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It’s Not What You Think

Do you ever notice how much time you spend trying to "figure out what's going on" in your life...and in your relationship, if you're in one?  If it ends up being a fair amount of time, how's it working for you?  When you do get some "answers," what's the most common...

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Do You Swear To Tell The Truth, The Whole…?

Whether or not you're currently in a relationship with a lover/partner/spouse, you know that relationships of ALL kinds are a crucial ingredient in what makes life worth living (at least that's how I look at it).  You probably also know that managing a relationship...

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I’m Fine!…And You?

How many times have you heard this when you ask someone how they're doing: "I'm FINE!  And you?"...and, you simply KNEW that you were being fed a line of hooey?  How often has that happened to you with men as opposed to women?  Perhaps, in these times, it's an even...

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I Hate You, So I Can Love You!…Really?!

A few Saturdays ago, you  received a quick email about Mercury Retrograde, essentially warning you that a lot of unusually intense emotions, reactions, circumstances, etc. were like to be busting out all over the place...particularly with loved ones.  I told you to...

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Are You Willing To Be An Idiot For Love?

What's your biggest fear, other than harm coming to someone you love?  Is it being out of money?  Is it being alone or unloved?  Is it that people will find you you secretly read Mad Magazine in the john when no one's looking?  Failing? Odds are pretty high that your...

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Getting More Bang For Your Bang

Ok, first of all, get your mind out of the gutter, now. The title of this piece is not what you think (though it's not a bad objective in the realms of intimacy).  This is not going to be about how to improve your sex life, though if you pay attention to what's being...

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