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Scared to Life (vs. Scared to Death)

            It’s kind of a funny thing, that expression “It scared me to death.” [Recently discussed by Geoff at Debbie LaChusa's Money Success Happiness blog at www.moneysuccesshappiness.com] In my work with people, and in my own...

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Is It Time To Stop Sleeping In?

Three years ago, a young 22-year-old man my son knew was walking along a local overpass that is one of the busiest traffic corridors in the Boulder area. For some reasons that we'll never really know, this young man - deeply loved by his family and his friends - made...

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Forget iPads… How about iLove?

[This article was co-written with my colleague & friend, Julie Michaels] I want to ask you to stop reading this for a moment, and just sit, close your eyes, take some deep breaths, and see if you can remember a time in your life where you felt deeply, truly,...

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Not Any Farther Than I Can Throw You!

Do you have trust issues with your partner (and/or someone you're not romantically involved with)? If you don't, you're a rarity. With so many couples I work with, it looks like communication's a major issue (which it is), but more often than not, the more fundamental...

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What the Hell is “Success” Anyway?

Can success really just be a function of The K.I.S.S. Principle (Keep It Simple Stupid, for those under 40 who may confuse it with the band)?   Success, and happiness...those two things have been on my mind for most of my adult life (and my childhood, for that...

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Gettin’ Nekkid

These are the last words you'll ever read from me. Are they really? I hope not. However, that's one of the fears that came into my mind when my heart told me I needed to write this particular article today.  In the past, that fear would have been enough to stop me...

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Alphabet Soup for the Tweaked

"You're not here to get; you're here to LET..." - Rev. Michael Beckwith When it comes to both life and relationship happiness, I've come to see that one of the greatest sources of what I would deem unnecessary suffering is how focused so many of us are on getting. ...

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I’ll Take Mine Well Done, Thanks

CAUTION: If you happen to be someone who doesn't have ANY kind of Spiritual path/philosophy you care about (or don't believe YOU have a Spirit that guides you in any way), please don't read any further.  Doing so will either confuse you and/or piss you off. It can't...

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